It’s a week away from Halloween and the temps are starting to drop. Fall weather has finally joined us at the Jersey Shore. Living in Toms River, it is one of the few places that we trick or on October 30th, yes the day before Halloween. The idea was established so the town could all enjoy the Halloween Parade on the 31st as a family. I have some great memories of lining up on Main St. early to have a good view with a zip loc bag of sugar filled treats.
When I was a kid (oh my sounding older then my 49 years), we were excited to go out and fill up a pillow case of goodies. Stopping home to unload your treats, fuel up and go back out for round 2 or 3! Times they are a changing, society is changing, there is a lot more “Trunk or Treats” for children’s safety and what seems like convenience. There is something to be said about going out and walking for hours for candy you don’t even like just to say you got more then your friends. It is a simple way that children have fun and learn their perseverance pays off.
Over the years, there have been less trick or treaters and definitely more cars driving the kids around to get their treats. Everyone is in a rush, missing out on the simple fun and dare I say exercise. Our kiddos are grown but we are excited to stroll with our grandson and see his reaction to the costumes and treats. He is too young to walk and eat the goodies but his mommy has his costume or costumes ready to go!
So don’t be ghoulish, turn on your front light, welcome the little goblins and have fun in seeing the joy in the kids eyes. I’m thinking of a sign to have for parents who are walking the endless hours and might need a refill in their cup!
Another year has come to pass and I’m feeling so truly grateful. I am sitting here in the still of the night smiling, and giving thanks for all of my blessings and my love affair with my husband. He has the ability to make everyday an extraordinary one!
I have a few wishes this year, may our children love and be loved as we love. May we have many more sunrises, sunsets, stolen kisses, laughter and adventure in the years ahead. May we never take each other for granted and always start and end each day with a kiss.
I loved all my birthday presents but my greatest gifts call me mom and wife!
In this age of social media and on line albums perhaps this thought is old school. If I were to go back and change anything since we were first married, it would be a journal of us. To write down all the places we have been, the outings we have taken and just fun facts.
It would not require every personal emotion but a log of our journey together. I was reflecting on all that we have seen and done since we were married. I can not always remember the dates or the years and wish I had kept a journal. It would be a fun reflection over time and a great family heirloom and tradition.
As we approach our 24th wedding anniversary I am going to start. Should the day come when we are unable to get out and about, we can reflect on all the adventures we had while the body and mind were able.
I encourage those newly engaged, married, or even those like us who have a few years already in to the institution of marriage to grab a book and start to journal. There is no one to better to tell your story then yourself.
From the beginning of time life was not about easy. Just look at Adam and Eve, they had it all, but temptation got the best of them. If you check your birth certificate I am certain you will not find a certified stamp guaranteeing an easy life.
Some folks are trying to have babies while others just toss them away without any value for life. There are people without homes and people with multiple homes. Those without jobs and those who spend more time at their job trying to avoid the work.
The list can go on and on. There will be times when you might question why me? I can’t imagine anyone who has not. Not every question we have will be answered in a way we will understand or comprehend. Knowing of all the wrongs in the world, the evils that lie ahead of everyday, some days may want to have you hide under a rock. I hope that you will feel the warmth of the sun, peek out from under that rock and embrace the smallest of all joys that do surround you.
I have all kinds of friendships and people that have crossed my path in my 47 years. I can say the truly richest are those that give thanks each day, appreciate the sunrise for which they are alive another day, and give willingly of themselves. It is easy to judge someone from afar but you have no idea of their daily struggles, so be kind.
It is much easier to be kind and smile then to harbor anger and resentment. You never know what your smile or kind word will do for someone you come across in your life, no matter how brief the moment.
A life filled with love is a life worth living!
I have been trying lately to log off from all my favorite electronics and plug in to living in the moment. This is not to say I have gone cold turkey and I’m not browsing my favorite sites or posting here and there, just changing my habits ever so slightly.
I might have Apple to thank for a bit of this. I recently purchased the iphone6+, it’s big, like a mini iPad. I love it, but the convenience of having it at my finger tips all the time is a bit inconvenient. What a gift! I have been walking without my earphones, leaving my phone at home, listening to nature, head up and eyes straight ahead. There are times I need the music to get me through a workout but being in tune with my thoughts has been beneficial.
I have come to realize when I am bored, I log on, search, post, retweet etc., but for the most part I am not missing the #socialmedia craze. I have been less active on line and much more active in life. The busier I am, the more connected I am to my daily passions and the less desire I have to post. This has led to less blogging. My mind has had so many thoughts I have not been able to focus on the blog so I thought I would start with this explanation.
The holidays are rapidly approaching and while I will be busy taking photos and capturing memories, my goal is not to post immediately, but to enjoy the moment and make an album at a quiet time. A time where I can reflect, enjoy the moments captured and memories being made, decide what is truly worth sharing with the world and what is worth keeping private.
I hope all of you can enjoy the moment, log off and plug in as well!
The order of which children are named makes me better comprehend the gifts of the ages. As parents we are so excited and in awe of the birth of our children.
We hear from our parents the joy of being a Grandparent, the wonder and love of a grandchild!!
Then you take it to the next level of greatness to be a Great-GrandParent to have the honor and privilege to have a great-grandchild.
We have yet to be blessed with grandchildren but as I watch our friends beam and try to express the love of a grandchild I can only imagine how our hearts will grow in love and pride.
Watching Parenthood this season it made me realize the love and passion that holding such a title will make you do anything for the future generations of family and to be a part of it.
I’m loving the role of mother and mother-in-law and can only imagine when the next generation blesses our family. But for now I am embracing wife and empty nester.
This weekend we celebrate all that happened because two people fell In love. The never ending story of generations before us and those to come after us.
Happy 47th Birthday to me and wishing all of my readers a great day!
Cheers from Bermuda 🍹!
My birthday month begins at midnight tonight! I’m not embarrassed of my age, soon to be 47. I don’t feel any age in particular. I do have many fond memories of living that has gotten me to this point. I embrace the good and the bad because without the perfect blend, I would not be me.
I celebrate the month in the sense of self celebration. My plan is to each day do something for me, with me. It seems easy, all my kids are grown, but I am a creature of doing for others. I will not be self serving only, but I will allow and encourage myself to celebrate the woman I am.
Today as I was enjoying the facilities at our health club, I was admiring the strong older woman. The women who make my smile so broad, with their walkers, swim suits, sagging bodies, gray hair, but more knowledge of life and filled with more laughter then most 40 year olds I know. It made me think of how I love their pride, their age, somewhat failing bodies, their chatter makes me blush at times but mostly giggle. As I did my hair and looked at the mirror the admiration I felt for strangers reminded me to be kinder to myself.
No worries, I’m not getting to sentimental, or so reflective that I am losing my sense of humor. Let’s all gather round and be positive (a prayer would not hurt) that my glass remain at least HALF FULL!!! After all my friends it is birthday month.