Birth Order & Parents

The stigma of birth order, will have people roll eyes, shutter and just plain say “Oh Yeah my __________ born” is exactly the same.

I’d like to give some inside scoop as we see it in our home and when I say we, I obviously mean me! ūüėČ We are the proud parents of three babies, 30, soon to be 22 and freshly as of today 19!

Just to mix it up I won’t start with the first born, or the baby, I will begin with the middle child. ¬†When our middle child was born, our first daughter, six weeks early, we were nervous, excited and prayed for her health. ¬†We were all so excited, big brother, who had to give up his throne of “only child” close to 9 years of holding that title was eager to meet his little sister and sibling. ¬†We were all over protective and boasting of the addition to our family. ¬†This little one entered the world six weeks early and was making leaps and bounds as a preemie, passing the expected charts. ¬†It was not soon after hubby and I joked with her attitude, she had middle child syndrome and we may have to try for another. ¬†Perhaps the joking was because once back in babyhood to have another was easier then taking the plunge almost nine years later.

Let me go to the first born, there is nothing like a first born, because you have never been a parent. ¬†You can control infinite possibilities because there is no sibling influence. ¬†There is wonder, confusion, excitement, crying from parents and baby, as well as laughter. ¬†You are not aware of great strides or failures with the first because you are like a duck, smooth on top of water and rapidly kicking underneath. ¬†We pushed him harder, not because we thought he knew it all but because we didn’t know any better. ¬†These are things the children born after the first do not realize. ¬†The first holds a special place in your life because all that unfolds is a first for all of you. ¬†We had almost nine years of thinking we knew it all and thankfully God gave us the good insight to have more children.

Ahh the baby ( I happen to hold that title as well with my siblings), everyone thinks they get away with it all. ¬†Here is a bit of insight, they have seen their siblings try, fail and or succeed at different attempts with sports, school and the parents. ¬†They have learned what works and what won’t and they have the advantage to the parents being a bit more tired ~ thanks to the older siblings. ¬†Most think the baby is spoiled, truth be told we as parents have learned what is truly important to us, our faith and our family at this point so passes may be given. ¬†Our baby decided to enter the world two days past due date, only a big deal when the first was four weeks early and the middle six weeks early, she was making a point ~ watch out mom, dad, and siblings.

We have been blessed over the years with a daughter-in-law, soon to be son-in-law and you know the baby seems to be happy with her significant other.  We love our children, we love who they love, our family is based on faith and love and I would never change a moment in our history or our future as a growing family.

The only guarantee you get in this life is the current moment, so be present, love big, have faith and remember no matter your birth order your parents love you.  If you are truly blessed your extended family will equally love you.

I often tell my children how I wish they were closer to home, truth be told, I love the life they lead, the way they have spread their wings and they know we are always here for them.

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Who Has the Last Laugh

Lately, I have been laughing at myself, a lot. ¬†I laugh that I can not leave the house with out making my bed, making sure the kitchen is clean and laundry is in order. ¬†It makes me think back to when I was a kid and just wanted to jump out of bed and run out to play. ¬†My mother would yell, did you make your bed?, brush your teeth, put away your laundry?, ….. the litany of questions would just fly out of her mouth as fast as saying hello.

Also, how my father would yell that nothing in the refrigerator has changed since the last time we opened it, two minutes ago.  When I was first married I would call my Dad to say hi and let him know I was opening and closing the fridge for no apparent reason.  Now we have a refrigerator that has a buzzer when opened to long, it makes me CRAZY!

There are many voices in my head, easy there peeps, mostly my parents and lessons taught early on.  It is not a bad thing but some of them I may have become obsessive, like when our carbon monoxide detector went off and we had the family safely on the deck and I went back in to make the bed before the firemen came.

My mom once told me she didn’t believe that when you were in Heaven that you could see everyone on earth. ¬†She believed it would bring heavy hearts to the Angels. ¬†This made sense to me, but I do believe there is a “Humor Window” that now and again the Angels peak down and¬†laugh at us.

So as your kids make you crazy, no worries, our voices will remain with them longer after we no longer walk the earth!

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