Should have, could have, would have

Life is a precious gift. Do not let your should have’s become your could have’s or would have’s. As you all know I am an optimist, a lover of life, my family and have learned you can not control all that will happen. We all have worries, that is a normal part of life, you can not let fear control you. You must be responsible for your actions and your people but as the song goes; “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”.

You should always have a passport ready for any opportunity whether business or pleasure should knock on your door. If you have never traveled or perhaps you are always on the go, keep travel size items and cash accessible. You will be thankful to look back and even blush as you tell an adventure, it will be a part of the story you created in your life. It is much better to have lived and taken chances then to stay so close to your vest that you never take a chance.

We are never guaranteed tomorrow, so be thankful for today, enjoy the gift of waking and living. Be kind, take the road less travelled, listen to the stories of those around you, age is not a requirement for experience. Embrace it all, perfection is an unrealistic goal for a daily outlook, but embracing the imperfection is ideal.

I’m a realist and if times have you strapped and you can not leave the state or your county, set out to explore where you live. Change it up, promise yourself a little glimpse of something you would not normally have done. The best things in this life we all lead are free, so love, laugh, and live vibrantly, your children, friends, and all those you encounter will be the recipients of the smile on your face.

My mommy always said, go and do while you are able, because when you think you can afford it or the time is perfect, you may not be in the best of health!


A New Year

I have become a year older since my last blog and while I can’t promise amazing wisdom, it has been an amazing start.

For those that follow me on social media you have had a glimpse of what has been going on. I closed out 46, heading to Bermuda for a weekend of R,R & R, ( for you youngsters, that is rest, romance and relaxation, emphasis on the second R).

It was a continuation of “firsts” that hubby and I try to continue as we head in to the world of “Empty Nesters”. Neither of us had been to Bermuda, we were excited for all it offered. We idealized how great it would it would be., to be disconnected for a three day trip. It was our first time not to add, global data and calling to our plan as we would only be gone a few days and all our children are out of the nest and in contact with one another.

Guilty as charged, we checked the weather, simply, it said rain. So we packed for anything but! We arrived to a beautiful island, took all Bermuda had to offer with open arms and began to celebrate, champagne, dining and dancing. The only person we thought not to be on our page was the boat rental guy, who said a hurricane was brewing…… we declined to really invest in his forecast.

We had the most amazing time swimming in The Grotto, caverns underground, an ultimate experience to enjoy should you get the chance. We drank Champagne on the beach, birthday morning, standing in The Grotto Bay, another first. We were high on our love, our getaway and all we were experiencing.

That night Tropical Storm Fay hit, thankfully we had dined, danced and enjoyed enough bubbly to get us throughout the first half of the storm without a worry. When we woke we realized the storm had hit, ignorance had us at it had passed, we were in the eye. We were safe and not overly panicked, we can thank Super Storm Sandy for that. Once our flight was cancelled we were ever so thankful for “free wifi” in the lobby to reach out to our son to help get us off the island, a strong hurricane was already in the forecast five days later. That is a great gift, as all panicked we were thankful for communication.

We were only delayed on the island one extra day, once again we made the most of the gift of time. We laughed, inquired with locals how they were doing, because resort life is always fabulous compared to what locals have to deal with to make life wonderful.

I hope I still have many of you, this is a long blog for me. I opened my luggage on birthday morning and of course my wonderful husband snuck a card and gift in, as if the trip was not enough. One of the many gifts he spoiled me with this “birthday month”, was dance lessons.

Last night we began dance lessons, another first. We LOVED it, what better way to be in each others arms with out distractions, gazing in to one another’s eyes, laughing and loving! We are fortunate for our closeness, our connection and our love but this still raised the bar. I recommend to all couples, a date night of dressing up and dancing is a fantastic aphrodisiac!

We look forward to continuing our “firsts” and hope you do the same. Live, love, laugh and please repeat all day long. Create your love story, don’t follow someone else’s dream, they are not one size fit all.

Children, Great & Grand

The order of which children are named makes me better comprehend the gifts of the ages. As parents we are so excited and in awe of the birth of our children.

We hear from our parents the joy of being a Grandparent, the wonder and love of a grandchild!!

Then you take it to the next level of greatness to be a Great-GrandParent to have the honor and privilege to have a great-grandchild.

We have yet to be blessed with grandchildren but as I watch our friends beam and try to express the love of a grandchild I can only imagine how our hearts will grow in love and pride.

Watching Parenthood this season it made me realize the love and passion that holding such a title will make you do anything for the future generations of family and to be a part of it.

I’m loving the role of mother and mother-in-law and can only imagine when the next generation blesses our family. But for now I am embracing wife and empty nester.

This weekend we celebrate all that happened because two people fell In love. The never ending story of generations before us and those to come after us.

Happy 47th Birthday to me and wishing all of my readers a great day!

Cheers from Bermuda ūüćĻ!


Just you and the carry-on


So the birthday weekend rapidly approaches and as I prepare to pack, I find myself eyeing up the carry-on luggage. ¬†We have a great relationship, no matter where we go, whether over night, weekend getaway, or for the week it is my go to bag. ¬†I amaze myself at the overpacking ability I have with such limitations. ¬†To my credit an oversized purse for all last minute “musts” helps as well.

It helps tremendously that we tend to travel to warmer destinations.  It is amazing how many sundresses, coverups, swimsuits and dresses you can overpack.  The key lies in the shoes, you must have shoes that can cross over to various outfits and color schemes all working together.

I am a list maker, I like to make it once, twice, perhaps thrice. ¬†Then lay the clothes out, and just when I think I have it all together I watch my hubby pack in three seconds and one of those items will trigger a whole new direction.Life is good, no matter what I pack or think I forgot there are always many items I don’t touch.

This weekend we are looking to disconnect from all but each other. ¬†We are still on the fence¬†if we will opt for a data plan, if not it will be the first time I don’t speak with my children on my birthday. ¬†I am okay with it as they are young adults and we will all connect before we take off.

I’m looking forward to a¬†celebration away and to share the start of a new year, with my love in a new destination!


Unconditional Love

Unconditional love, most of us think of our love for a child, or perhaps how a pet loves you.  This past week or so I have been brain bogged to blog.  I have been thinking about what has been most prevalent in my life, on my mind and true to my heart.

As we have been enjoying the whirl wind of the empty nest and spending more time together it came to me, I have been overwhelmed lately at the unconditional love I have for my husband and he for me.  Having just two of us in the house you truly realize all the little things you do for the other just to make their day easier, brighter or to make them smile.

It is a love we have kept front and center in our lives.   When overwhelmed with life and all that it has thrown at us, it is at those moments in time, a hug, a kiss, saying I love you or an embrace has kept the connection so strong.

We are human, we like to have our individual time but we are blessed to have grown together.  We are fortunate to be on the same page on most decisions in life, big and small.  I am thankful he is my best friend.

Keep the romance alive daily, kisses are free, holding hands brings about excitement, love notes warm a heart, enjoy it all. ¬†Dance in the rain, enjoy the sunrises and sunsets and changing a toilet paper roll or soap in the shower can be an aphrodisiac! ūüėČIMG_6629