Hindsight is Power

Hindsight they say is 20/20.  I have never been able to figure who out who “they” are but they are often correct.

Spring is upon us, which always puts a pep in our step and gets the cobwebs off the to do list.

It is hard to believe this week we are preparing the house/yard for our daughter to host our grandsons first birthday.  That being said, the trick is in the balance of enjoying it all a long the way.

When we were younger and preparing for a big party the preparations would have us exhausted come party day.  This is the beauty of hindsight, here are a few things we learned a long the way:

Prepare what you can in advance.

Make a list, cross off and add on as you go, somethings might not get done and usually won’t make a difference.

That scuff on the wall, don’t worry, hire the painter post party there will be many more!

If you don’t want it broken, don’t have it out…

Clean the house but don’t freak yourself out, you will need to really clean when everyone is gone.

A causal party will have people coming and going, use the round off number for food and drink.

If you want something done at a certain time, it’s easier now with smart phones, set the alarm on your phone so time doesn’t slip away.

If someone offers to help and you can count on them, take them up on their offer.  (this is a tricky one took me almost 50 years)

If it is in your budget and depending on the party, hire a couple of people to clean up trash in the height of the party.  We started catering, cleaning people and bartenders later on for parties and this really allowed us to enjoy our guests.

If your friends are the guests they already know you, you don’t have to impress them.  They just want to share in your joy and fun.  Take the time to socialize, the mess will be there when they leave.

That being said, I have a list to conquer because those lists don’t conquer themselves!

I*t’s been a while since I’ve sat to write not the case of writers block but writer be busy.


26 Years Later – We Still Do

Happy Anniversary to the love of my life!  Reflection is hindsight and that is one great gift.  I am so thankful to have appreciated, so many sunrises and sunsets together. To look back and see our laughter, amongst the tears and fears, our faith, love and laughter have always pulled us through. The kisses that have been stolen and filled with so much passion.

I wish we could be somewhere warm celebrating today, but I will take any where in the world you are.

With all the love in my heart, you are my forever and always,

I Love You and I Still Do,



The Forties

The 40’s have been quite a decade thus far.  I have never had a problem with a birthday and the number attached to it.  I have 256 days until I turn 50, not that I am counting.  I had some goals for this year we shall see what unfolds.

I heard the rumors when you turn 40, harder to drop pounds, vision stinks, less stress because you get to enjoy the hard work of your 20’s and 30’s.  I would say most of the rumors are true.

I have had some of the best moments in my life during my 40’s but as I look back realize it has been a decade of surgeries and rebuilding.  Prior to this decade the only surgeries I had were my tonsils and appendix removed.  The stuff kids are made for.

Only fitting that I enter this year with spinal fusion surgery.  I have great faith to be back on the court playing the game I love by this summer.  Surgical recovery time will allow me to focus and realign my goals for this coming year and visions for the next decade.

My kids should know, I remember the song, “step on a crack ~ break your momma’s back”, I’m not sure which one is responsible but I will figure it out!  I’m just kidding kids I know it was a group effort, I’ve seen the MRI.  I’m thankful Dr. Jason Cohen can put me back together again, another nursery song, “Humpty Dumpty”.


A Decade Later

I can hardly believe it’s been ten years since my mother has passed. Ten years ago we knew the sentence, pancreatic cancer. It was delivered on the eve of my 39th birthday. 

Having buried both my parents one passing quickly and one with the knowledge of time, I always thought the latter was better.  I had a plan on how to spend the time, to get the best of it. HA, says the Lord, the plan is mine. 

A decade ago life had changed rapidly, with a pace we could have never imagined. Saying goodbye to my mother I thought would have been the toughest day of my life. 

A decade later, a sincere Thank You, to the family and friends who were the wind beneath my wings, (not to mention my husband).  We have been blessed in so many ways. 

By the Grace of God this story had the happiest of endings – to be continued, in a few days.

Live and love large, life has no guarantee, for this I know. Be happy, embrace your blessings.  

Sending love from SD Mom 💞

First Tooth on Election Eve

Ahh so fitting on Election Eve, changes came swiftly in our home today. Our first grandchild, grandson Luke got his first tooth!  Old school beliefs that the person to discover the tooth purchases the child their first pair of shoes, once walking.

I always joke with my husband that we have to be careful on what we do for the first, as we will want to do the same for future grandkids.  The balance of our country on many levels will be affected with this election, so we decided on a cardboard box as his first tooth gift.

We felt strongly that no matter who is elected President tomorrow a cardboard box would be within our reach.  We should always be able to give the gift or creativity, adventure, love and our time.  We spent hours playing, giggling and with this grand gift.

Remember to get out and Vote tomorrow, despite all the crazy, every vote counts.  No matter the outcome, may you be kind, creative, adventurous and present with those around you.

Should I feel cantankerous at the outcome I hopefully will not close the shutters on our fabulous, house, race car, boat, plane, train ….. brown box!

“Double Double Toil and Trouble”

It’s a week away from Halloween and the temps are starting to drop.  Fall weather has finally joined us at the Jersey Shore.  Living in Toms River, it is one of  the few places that  we trick or  on October 30th, yes the day before Halloween.  The idea was established so the town could all enjoy the Halloween Parade on the 31st as a family.  I have some great memories of lining up on Main St. early to have a good view with a zip loc bag of sugar filled treats.

When I was a kid (oh my sounding older then my 49 years), we were excited to go out and fill up a pillow case of goodies.  Stopping home to unload your treats, fuel up and go back out for round 2 or 3!  Times they are a changing, society is changing, there is a lot more “Trunk or Treats” for children’s safety and what seems like convenience.  There is something to be said about going out and walking for hours for candy you don’t even like just to say you got more then your friends.  It is a simple way that children have fun and learn their perseverance pays off.

Over the years, there have been less trick or treaters and definitely more cars driving the kids around to get their treats.  Everyone is in a rush, missing out on the simple fun and dare I say exercise.  Our kiddos are grown but we are excited to stroll with our grandson and see his reaction to the costumes and treats.  He is too young to walk and eat the goodies but his mommy has his costume or costumes ready to go!

So don’t be ghoulish, turn on your front light, welcome the little goblins and have fun in seeing the joy in the kids eyes.  I’m thinking of a sign to have for parents who are walking the endless hours and might need a refill in their cup!


Common Cents

I often think what a waste coins are, they fill our wallets, bottom of our purses, briefcases, cars, they end up everywhere.  However, if you use your coins with a common knowledge of saving, they can add up.

Everyone has an event that they are saving for and you would be surprised how fast coins can add up.  Throughout the years we have saved our coins and cashed them at times to pay for uniforms, boardwalk money, vacation money etc.  I’m always so amazed at the dollars amount cashed in.

Recently we have been putting change in our grandsons piggy bank, his mom took it to the bank and it had $88.00.  That is a nice deposit and small change went a long way.  When it comes to saving money, people often say well I could only put a dollar here or there, don’t be shy or embarrassed of small savings.  A little here and there will go a long way.

It’s a great tool to teach children and grown kids, saving money is hard, the first step may is often the hardest.  We all save for the expected things in life, birthdays, holidays, cars but it is often the unexpected that can have you in a panic.

So gather your loose change and see where it gets you.   May you be greatly surprised at the end of the month or year!  We hope our loose change will one day pay for our grandsons first car.

How fun would it be to say I purchased my first car with some loose change!